Spouse

You and your spouse no longer communicate effectively. You don’t feel heard, your needs and wants are thwarted. You seem to have grown apart and no longer share the same goals. You sometimes wonder what happened to the two of you and how you got so distant. You want to have fun in your marriage. You are tired at the end of the day and don’t have the energy to be spontaneous, passionate, or even pleasant to each other. You fight about money, children, household responsibilities. You want to make more effort to improve your marriage.

As a Divorce attorney I saw first hand how marriages end. There was always an unhappy journey between the joys, hopes, and expectations that were present on the day the couple married and the day they decided to divorce. Often the divorce could have been avoided if the couple worked on the issues that ultimately divided them. The first thing that happens is that they lose the ability to communicate effectively and compassionately, becoming more invested in being heard than in hearing the other. Having children, financial concerns, housing, job or career changes can stress a couple in ways they did not contemplate when they decided to get married. Couples often resent the differences between them rather than celebrate the fact that they are two different people with different ways of doing things.

It takes work to nourish a marriage. I teach couples how to communicate differently, how to respect differing opinions regarding child rearing, finances, extended family concerns. I show couples how to find common ground on their issues. I teach them how to allocate time for each other and regain the joy and passion they once had for each other. People change as they move through life. Couples who are committed to each other and their marriage can learn the tools to accept those changes and stay together in harmony and with joy.

If you feel that your marriage can benefit from counseling, please Contact Me by phone or email.